Cole, putting 100% of the blame on the other is not only a bit emotionally immature... it's also unrealistic. Most of the time, BOTH people contribute to relationship's problem.

Thus your attitude sounds like a strategy to not acknowledge your own issues or responsibility. Think about it: yelling "It's not my fault, it's HIM!!!" sounds what a small kid would do. :-)

Besides, you choose that person when you both were younger and immature, the way he was then. If one day you decide to grow, more power to you... but it's your choice, not his fault. Unless you both signed a contract establishing you both would evolve in due time (see when the Dr. talks about "If the couple never openly discussed their expectations...").