Dude, you're getting the Red Pill wrong (or, at least, you're getting wrong its core mindset).

Of course we can find many kinds of Red Pill out there. But what I'm talking about it's what I call the "rational Red Pill" (and I think it was the original one). That RP is based mostly on evolutionary psychology, and dedicated to improve oneself (the one saying "It's not your fault, it's all women's fault!" is more akin to the Black Pill kind).

The rational RP basically explain men and women behavior based on evolutionary reason, and that's nobody's fault: it just is what it is. Then it says to men that it's their responsibility to understand those rules and improve their game, approach, strategy or themselves - if they want better results.

Of course, like with any ideas, some people take it and distort it. But one should be able to tell the original idea from its distorted derivations.

So, if you wanted to blame something, I think you missed the target.