Great and insightful reply. I agree with most of what you say. Not all though...
> "It is not hard to find sex these days, nor dates"
For many men that's not true. It is for women, maybe.
> "As for "What do you bring to the table?", I think this sort of outright transactional approach is, from the start, somewhat unappealing."
And yet, that's exactly what many women do with their list of request / demands (and of course this includes YOUR article!).
But no woman - not to mention any feminist - ever says, in their case, that's transactional or harsh or unappealing. Oh no. Only women can do anything, right? ;-)
> "A man who gives you the impression that he wants to give you everything and doesn't need anything in return"
The same happens when it's a woman who gives a man the same impression. Nothing to do with gender.
But we know it's kind of idealistic, right? It's kind of a fairy-tale. In reality, everybody is looking to fulfill their needs (see bottom).
And let's be honest: if a woman doesn't feel any physical attraction towards that adoring man, 99% of the times he's doomed anyway - adoring or not.
> "it is these sorts of men we wish to give EVERYTHING to."
Hah! Many women take those man and sucks them dry instead. And they toss them away.
Never think YOU = ALL other women.
> "Healthy women, once in love, will give their all and more."
Agreed. But:
- "Healthy women": seem few and far between (ditto for men, BTW).
- "once in love": heh! Too bad it happens once in a blue moon (unless one is among the top 1% men). ;-)
As articles like yours clearly show, women are highly selective, by default. That's why men ask themselves if all that investment is worth it.
Because we're all driven by our needs, and what we want is someone who will fulfill those needs (or most of them, anyway). At least, that's something BOTH men and women share.
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In the end, I'd say you're smart and know your stuff (unlike many women here on Medium), yet you seem to ignore lots of relationship details or differences between men and women - and they matter. Your POV seems a bit idealistic and skewed towards women.
