I agree dating apps are not designed to make men "win"... but men's frustrations are not only due to the apps. It seems you are "forgetting" the human part.

> "But I rarely get matches — and when I do, they often ghost me after a few messages. It’s exhausting."

That's the experience of >90% of men (the "normal", not highly handsome ones). And that's not due to the app, but the woman. It's not the app choosing to "ghost", it's the person.

1. Sure, the way dating apps are designed is PART of the problem. But the other parts are:

2. Women are very selective, and most of them go for the "top men", ignoring the others.

3. On dating apps, women receive LOTS of attention (even the average ones), and that inflates their own ego and make them over-valuate themselves.

4. Most women are fickle about men: they lose interest in a heartbeat and disappear, because for them there's always a long queue of willing suitors.

Problem 2, 3 and 4 are not due to apps: they come mostly from women (and some might be facilitated by men).

You can deny this only if you fall for the typical feminist mindset, according to which "It's never woman's fault - so it must be anybody else's".