> "I can’t tell if he annoys me or if I’m being too picky."

You're definitely quite picky. And demanding. And easily annoyed.

The sad thing is, usually this attitude creates just what one tries to avoid: bad partners and disappointments.

I could be wrong but, from what I’ve read, the author seems self-centered: “It’s all about me and what I want”. She doesn’t seem really looking for a connection, but to have her needs met; and that’s ok. The problem is, people like that often find partners that are as self-centered; and that seems what has happened to her: he got what he wanted, and then bye bye baby.

• To many people, this would look like: “Poor woman, she got used”.
• To me, it looks like maybe she just met her “mirror”: and it ain’t pretty.