I frame it like this:

- Of course sex cannot be a "duty". And it mostly wouldn't work anyway, or it would be "mechanical". It would be like asking the husband "You will say to me 'I love you' at least 12 times a day": oh the sizzling romance!

- OTOH, beliefs like "Women don't owe men anything"or "My body, my choice" can easily mask a "I don't give a damn about your needs or happiness" attitude. That isn't someone would expect - or deserve - from a spouse.

I think marriage can work only when BOTH are willing to take care of each other needs. So, if your husband needs sex to feel loved, what could you do to give him the love that he craves?

And for those convinced the wife doesn't owe anything to his husband, I have a question: "Do husbands really owe their spouses affection, care, listening to, protection and romance?". If you say Yes to any of that, why shouldn't it work both ways?