> “I would like some appreciation for this absolutely hilarious and appropriate free image”

Yeah, great pic!

The first thing I noticed about this post (apart from the highly awkward situation that reader is living), is how beautiful and unusual that image is. Kudos!

Regarding the question, I fully agree with the Dr. As tempting as might be, meddling in others’ relationships usually creates more trouble, not less. Because we have no freaking idea how their relationship works.

And, in these kind of situations, the “Golden Rule” doesn’t work anymore: I might want one thing (e.g. “Tell me everything”), but there’s no way to know (unless you’re intimate with the other person) how it goes with others. As a matter of fact, many couples live with a “Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell” attitude – and would resent anybody infringing their equilibrium.

In other words, “spilling the beans” is not our duty – unless we’re talking about a close friend (and even then, better be sure in advance).