I'm afraid you mistook the exception for the rule.

I trust the woman in Peru was honest, but she's not the norm. It's not like most women are like her (although most women would say they are like her...).

> "Women want to feel safe."

> "Women want to feel seen."

If this was the truth, why so many women fall for "bad boys", rude Alphas, narcissistic assholes and even criminals? Those men are far from "safe", and they mostly do not actually "see" the woman.

So why those men are often successful with ladies? Because they are exciting (be it by their looks, self-confidence, charisma or wealth).

Most women crave strong emotions, and fall for the men who inspire them those emotions. "Nice guys" are rejected mainly because they're boring, not exciting at all. A boring man is to a woman, what an ugly woman is to a man: not dating material.

Of course some women are smart and mature enough to overcome this tendency, and will choose by deep compatibility, not skin-deep emotions. But most will not.

Thus, if you make a woman feel safe and be seen, but you are not exciting to her, your chances will be low.