I'm often baffled by how much people just ignore needs - theirs and others'. They just don't think about needs, and/or do not want to talk about them. :-o

But, as a matter of fact, everybody has needs, and those needs directly influence our mood, behavior and choices. Regarding relationships, we choose a partner primarily because s/he can satisfy our needs - or we hope that s/he will - even when we are not aware of what we need. Needs drive us, all the time.

Hence, ignoring needs is like driving our car with no map or direction... and then complain because we cannot get to destination.