I'm sorry for your kids. Not knowing you and your specific situations, I can't tell much.

But although I'm an MRA and I believe in (rational) Red Pill, I think the wide world is different from the way you paint it.

If your kids struggle with women so much, I think it most likely due to two possible reasons:

- They are in the wrong environment for them (I mean, a sensitive kid who likes poetry will likely feel out of place in a disco or a frat party).

- They have some psychological issue underneath. So maybe they choose, or attract, (unconsciously) the wrong kind of girls.

Lastly, allow me to pose a uncomfortable question: is your marriage happy? Kids often "mirror" their parents; and when the parents have a difficult or unhappy marriage, the kids have no healthy example to follow.