> "it will take much effort to find them"

That's the hard truth most women (and many men too) do not seem willing to hear.

A good relationship require hard work and constant effort. But so many women think they can "have it all" without effort. This is due to media messages, and also to feminism: "Women are beautiful the way they are"... even when they are pathologically obese.

Truth is, you can get on the same level you have to offer.