> "I’ve had multiple friends pointing out all of the (admittedly too varied) “red flags” in the guy I’m crushing on. And yet here I am, still into him."

Apart from the case when those friends are just jealous or biased (thus not reliable), if you keep crushing on the "wrong man", most likely it has to do with some traumas or deep negative beliefs. Some therapy or counseling could help.

You seem having conflicted views about men. Kind of a love-hate relationship. Until you clear this up, your relationships with men will most likely be problematic.