Just as with the five "love languages", it's not EITHER / OR; it's usually a mixture.

Most people have one o two primary items, and maybe some secondary ones.

Or, you might be someone who flows through all of them, depending on the day and mood (this is closer to the Shapeshifter).

Thus you don't have to choose. :-)

It's not a box-type method, it's more like a recipe with several ingredients and you can mix and match them.