> "Missy implicitly trusted her 55-year-old husband, Bart. Sure, he secretly loved sex and porn but didn’t all guys? He would never cheat? Right?"

He secretly loved sex? Do you mean he had to hide his loving of sex?!? But why?

1. Did Missy judge or shame sex, or her husband?

2. And did she ever took seriously Bart's need for sex? Did she care for Bart's happiness and satisfaction?

Because, if Missy did #1 and she didn't #2... how could she think he would never cheat?!?

That's like saying you can never water a plant, and be flabbergasted when you find it's dried dead. I mean, even your cat will bite your leg if you don't feed him!

This whole shtick sounds like wives aren't responsible no-matter-what, and the husband must always behave no-matter-what. Is this "feminist equality"?

In the end, it's not the OF girl who "broke the marriage". A marriage goes broke when the two partners cannot fix their marriage - or they do not care. Blaming someone outside is just an excuse to not acknowledge one's responsibility. And the responsibility lies 50% on each spouse.