Oh my, thank you for saying these (very real) things out loud, instead of confirming the common feminist stereotype according to which "The woman is right whatever she wants".

I think "total parity" in a couple is kind of a myth.

In my observation of (many) couples, most of the time there's one leader (or boss or dominant) partner, and a follower (or submissive) one. That's just natural, because we aren't all born leaders.

The problem is:

- When the leader is the man they won't openly admit it, because today is not PC or anti-feminist (god forbid!).

- And when the leader is the woman they won't admit it either, because the woman doesn't want to look bossy or bitchy (even when she is).

Therefore all the the issues the Dr. mentioned here.

If instead people felt free to openly admit their roles, the leader - whoever s/he is - could effectively lead and the other would usually follow. Or they could split their loads however would fit them.

But they cannot do that under the "There's no leader / boss here, we're equal!" charade.