Or, how to fixate on one point and miss the larger discourse.

Most men will be polite and respect women - even when harboring negative emotions; most will actually help women when it's the case. It's just a tiny, tiny minority that become actually violent.

Yet you seems to see only the latter.

Are you a feminist by any chance? Because most feminism is based on such "attention bias" (i.e., all about women’s positives and men’s negatives — and never the opposite).