Thank you! Finally, a woman on Medium seeing relationships as an adult! (I should not be surprised, and yet...)

Asking "What do you bring to the table" is like asking "Who are you? What are your qualities, skills, values, power, energy...?". It's a fundamental question. Any serious adult would welcome it.

So why are some people enraged by it? My explanations:

1. They are not really adults. They are still like children, all about getting and not about giving (a child is not yet able to give, he can only receive).

2. They are insecure about their worth. They may superficially think to be great but, deep down, they are afraid of not being much. Hence this question strikes at their insecurity.

3. They are entitled. They have a "princess complex": everything is owed to them. Of course this is a form of immaturity.

But why are so many women ready to list all of their requirements, and yet offended when asked the same? I blame feminism above all: most (Western) feminism taught women they are awesome just because they are women, they deserve everything no-matter-what, they are never wrong, they have only rights but no responsibility, etc. It's totally one-sided; it nurtures a gimme-gimme-gimme mindset.

This way, feminism pushes women to be entitled, demanding and whiny bitches - and that's what those women enraged by that question look like.

Of course not all women fall by that trap; but many do. Feminism says it want to "empower women", yet it pushes them to become immature babies.