Thanks for making the parallel between the male fantasy and the female fantasy.

I see the male (usually sexual) fantasies pilloried all the time, while the female fantasies (the man being a mind-reader, or he should be romantic all the time, etc.) are seldom questioned. The former are blamed on porn (and yet men had such fantasies even 2000 years ago), while nobody blames rom-coms and chick flicks for the latter. :-/

As a matter of fact, men are not mind-readers just as women are not porn stars. Is it really that hard to get?

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I've noticed that for any fault or quirk one gender has, the opposite gender has an equivalent one. Hence it's quite silly - not to mention sexist - to complain "Men do THIS!" without also noticing that "Women do THAT!". You cannot solve a conflict looking just at one side.