Thanks for sharing your experience. I hope it could be useful for people to learn to NOT repeat the mistakes your parents did.

And I'm really sorry for what you had to go through. We often talk about visible traumas, but a kind of "invisible trauma" is being denied who we really are. Nobody deserves that. :-(

Perhaps you could find some insight and solace in this book: "Running on empty" by Jonice Webb.

https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/15812553-running-on-empty

The author examines the deep damage of being emotionally neglected and/or repressed in childhood. It's somehow close to what happened to you.

Wear your tiara proudly: you survived and reclaimed part of what was denied to you. Kudos :-)