Thanks honey, but I wasn't talking about me in particular. :-)

I was thinking to all the (many) people who struggle in matter of relationships, whatever the reasons, and they just cannot find love. Be it for their lacking, their traumas, their broken souls...

I find it unkind and somehow cruel telling those people something that sounds a bit like "What's the matter with you? Just go and get it!".

It's because I acknowledge my privileges (I've been blessed with many skills) that I recognize I can easily do things some people struggle with. Therefore I empathize with the ones that just seems cannot reach what they want - and not for lack of trying.