There seem to be some unexamined issues underneath. Likely that includes hurt feelings and resentment. Maybe they accumulated over years.

"They say there is no reason." But of course there is. Why don't they tell you? Why do they think it's useless or counter-productive? Is it because you don't listen? Or because you do not accept criticism? (the Dr. examines in this in the "“Am I emotionally open to feedback?” paragraph).

Issues do not happen out of thin air. Only by honestly examining your behavior (including the past ones), and your contribution to those issues, you might hope to find a solution. Everything else sounds just like whining and demands.

"You either have to be part of the solution, or you're going to be part of the problem." (Eldridge Cleaver)