This is an interesting article, but I'd say that most of what you say here applies to both men AND women. It's not gender-specific: those are issues with immature, troubled or fragile persons. The problems you're talking about are real... but in most cases they haven't much to do with men per se.

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> "the reason that they’re single can be because they’re self-destructive and are looking for something they isn’t realistic."

IMHO the former apply to several women, while the latter apply to most of them.

Society, media and feminism all feed a sense of entitlement and unrealistic aspirations in women: "Even if I'm nothing special, I deserve an awesome partner and being swept off my feet" (this is the plot of most rom-coms and chick flicks).

> "2) Many of these guys ... only want to meet if sex is a high probability"

Most men experience lots of rejections and waste of time (the conversation starts and then she just disappears). Since the woman is usually "the chooser" (and women are more choosy), men have to write to maybe 100 women to obtain two or three replies.

Hence we tend to screen a lot to avoid wasting time when the talking seems to go nowhere or she doesn't seem really interested. We have been burned by investing in lots of situations that fizzled out, or where she just ghosts. So if the situations is too "lukewarm" or going too slow, we imagine our chances are too low and we "cut our losses".

BTW, this is a problem especially with online dating (and I think it applies to women as well): the more opportunities available, the less time we invest with each of them.

Oh, and sex for men is paramount: if we sense sex is off the table, why wasting our time? For like 99% of us, sex is our main need (not the only one, but the first one). Women have to deal with it - or became lesbians. ;-)

> "3) Men want perfection and keep waiting around for something “better”."

Really?!?

I'd say this applies to a minority of men, but to a majority of women. It's the women who usually have stricter standards (this is evolutionary, BTW). For most men, if a woman is cute, kind and she enjoys sex with him, they are quite happy with her.

Unless you're talking about the "top men", the best ones. Of course those have higher standards, because they know they can have the best.

> "4) they expect that there will be financial pressure put on them by a partner."

Actually, most women expect the man to have a certain economical stability. Do you really think most women would be ok with a poor or jobless man?!? There's lot of research showing women care about this.

> "6) Men don’t respect women and play games."

And so do lots of women.

> "7) Men are intimidated by independent women."

IMO it's insecure men who area afraid of such women. Not the strong ones.

What I often see, instead, is men avoiding entitled, bitchy or demanding women, who say they are "strong and independent" but they are actually egotistical and bossy. The same is true with women heavily showing double standards (quite common among feminists).

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It seems to me your observations are based mostly on a few peculiar men, and especially your exes. Could it be that YOU are the one attracted to guys with issues and troubles...? (after all, it's YOU who chose them :-).