This post seems having a totally "female-centric" viewpoint, and it sounds like the usual "feminist" advice where the man has to do all the "work".

(I say "feminist" because "It's always men's fault" and "It's never women's responsibility" are classical feminist positions).

Your points about porn are not wrong, but they are very one-sided: "Men have issues, men must change (and women can go scot-free)".

What about all the times when a man resorts to porn because he's sexually hungry, ignored or rejected? That's not porn's fault.

What about all the times when the couple's sex life is lacking or abysmal, but the woman doesn't want to talk about it, or try new stuff, or thinks "Sex is gross anyway".

Besides, you yourself admitted in several posts that oftentimes a man can do his best, be the better husband possible, and still the wife is (almost) never "in the mood for sex".

Why putting all the onus on the man, making lists on lists about "Do this" and "Don't do that"... and yet in most cases is the woman who is the "sex gatekeeper" and the one with issues around sex? Maybe we'd better focus on the real "elephant in the bedroom", i.e. the woman.

(I've written a longer comment on the same article on the author's blog)