This sounds like the usual idealistic crap. Or maybe you just projected what works FOR YOU.

- First, we're all different: thus there's no way all women (or men) want the same person.

- Second, most women - like men - go for physical attraction first. Hence they often choose men they find exciting, but lacking many of other qualities.

- Third, the whole "they look for men who treat them with respect and love them" is BS: so many women fall for the "bad boy" or the handsome asshole.

In other words, what you say might be right in theory, but it very often doesn't work in practice.