To all the people commenting that the wife has a right to her total "body autonomy"... let’s try a “role switch” experiment. :-)

Let's say it's the man who, even when he's not "in the mood" to cater to his wife's emotional needs, has to be talkative, listening, romantic, attentive, open emotionally and to intimacy – whether he wants or not because “She needs and deserves that”. Forget being sovereign over your own will, feelings and desire.

Now, if you agree with the above scenario... what about this husband "autonomy"?

Because that’s exactly what many therapists tell the man to do (as Dr. Psych Mom says), or what most women expect from their partner.

In this viewpoint, it’s like the man is a “second class” partner, and his needs are way less important (and BTW, that’s exactly what most feminism supports: the woman first and foremost).

So, is one needs “right” and the other's “wrong”… or do couples need to consider BOTH?