> "Well Valter help me out if you can please, because I've wondered my whole life. What can it possibly be?"

Sweetie, it could be so many different things. It's not something one could analyze using Medium comments. :-)

It would be worth it to ask a therapist or counselor about.

What I know is that, most likely, it has to do with YOU rather than with the world. What you did perceive as a possible "put down", I see simply as responsibility: the life we have is mostly the results of our choices - or lack thereof - including our unconscious ones. Thus, instead of blaming someone or something, try to understand in which way you contributed to your situation (this is a basic spiritual teaching).

We all live in the same world, yet everybody meets very different experiences. Some of it it's due to chances, sure... but most is due to choices.

Most people have some trauma or emotional wound, and that hidden part of them shapes their choices:

- A classic example is the person with abandonment issues, that often chooses a partner who will abandon him/her.

- Or, if someone has trust issues, s/he will build "walls" that will keep other people away (and the few who will get close will often be the bad ones, because they don't care about walls).

In the end, we agree on one thing: life is hard for everybody. Both men AND women. :-o

I often highlight men's suffering because our society - influenced by feminism - mostly cares and talk about women's suffering. Therefore I try to balance views.