Valter Psicofelicità
1 min readAug 25, 2024

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> "When you meet the right person, it will be easy."

Yeah, if only. This sounds like a fairy-tale.

Relationships are never that easy; human beings are way too complex and quirky.

> "No more fighting to make it happen"

This is another fairy-tale idea. Couples that do not fight are just hiding things inside; a recipe for disaster, later.

Good couples fight, but they find a way to resolve their issues in a constructive way.

> "It’s about just being yourself and letting that be enough."

Yeah, but... what if "yourself" is a bunch of neurosis? Or severely traumatized? Then the partner will not be able to magically solve your issues.

I think all these happy cases happen between reasonably mature and healthy people. If someone is severely troubled, instead, no "right one" will magically fix him/her.

The idea "I'm a mess, but with the right one everything will be just fine" is just another romantic delusion.

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Valter Psicofelicità
Valter Psicofelicità

Written by Valter Psicofelicità

Mi occupo di crescita personale da 40 anni. Nel mio blog parlo di migliorare se stessi, la propria vita e le relazioni, per vivere meglio ed essere più felici.

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