Your "suggestion" sounds like - again - a form of "It's always men's fault; women are never responsible" (Feminism 101).

If I said "Most men only like really thin women - or ones with huge boobs" (BTW it's not true), would you be OK with women having boob jobs or starving themselves to conform to men's desires? I hardly think so (double standards are feminism bread and butter).

Besides, even working on one's attractiveness doesn't change that much: women are "biologically programmed" to desire the "top men" (it's evolutionary). Hence if all men improved their looks, women would still pursue the top 20%.

Lastly, regarding your "So what?": most men would like to fuck all the young and pretty women they meet (and that's mostly true). Hence your boyfriend / husband lusts after most women around. So what? It is what it is. It's just reality. Deal with it, maybe?

Or... reality is wrong only when it goes against women's desires?